Many people I have talked to over the years always say to me well my friends and families lives are perfect, mine is just horrible, they did all the right things in their lives, they have great jobs, got married at the right time, had kids, bought the perfect house. And I always kind of laugh about this a little when people say this to me, because trust me, no one’s life is that perfect. They are not as happy as you think. Everyone has struggles. Everyone has problems.
My parents started telling me the truth about marriage a few years ago. It is not easy. Life is not easy. I knew life wasn’t easy. I was diagnosed in my early twenties and basically was broken for fifteen years. I know life is difficult, but I found the marriage difficulty interesting. Because when you are twenty, everyone is like, get married, have kids, it’s amazing. And I am sure it is, but it’s not as perfect as everyone says it is.
We just see certain parts of everyone’s lives. No one is that happy. And I am not that happy. I have horrible days sometimes. It happens. Life is not easy. All I know is that we, including myself, are all just trying to survive each and every day the best we can.
That is why I always tell people to be kind to everyone. Everyone is struggling, your words can change the course of someone’s life, so choose your words wisely and be kind as much as you can. Be good to people even if they are not good to you. That is what my Nonna always said, do good and forget about it. Don’t expect anything in return. God and the universe will reward you, maybe not in this life but definitely in the next.
Life in general is not easy. It will never be. But if you look closely, there is beauty in this life. In all the brokenness and in all the pain, there is something amazing about this world. And if we are able to survive the worst of life, maybe we will eventually see the best.